Sunday, February 09, 2003
I'm currently involved with a woman who I don't think I want to be involved with over the long-term, and I feel guilty because in some ways, I feel I'm leading her on and I don't want to "break her heart" (not that I'm saying I would -- but I feel like she's invested herself in this budding relationship while I'm not too into it at the moment) by breaking things off and I don't think it's possible to let things just dwindle. While I probably have the opportunity to tell her I met someone else and it would make things easier for me because I have a plausible excuse, I feel like she deserves the truth, and I don't know how to justify the fact that I continued things this long while I was considering pulling away from her.
On the other hand, I'd met someone through JDate who I really liked, who I thought "got it" (like she understood what I'm about and has a similar sense of humor and personality as I do and likes the same things as I did) and who I actually had people in common with thanks to the six degrees of Jewish separation. I'd gotten a stellar recommendation on her from my roommate's girlfriend, we'd corresponded on e-mail and on the phone to the point where I was really looking forward to any communication with her. And we were supposed to get together today. Then she called this morning and cancelled, saying that because of the online thing, she didn't feel comfortable meeting me. She was a bit weirded out and didn't want to get together -- she couldn't explain exactly how she was feeling, but she said that she felt she owed it to me to tell me the truth -- and she felt things were strange with all the e-mailing we'd been doing. So things are "on hold" with her, as she put it, and she said she'd call me, but I wonder if I'll ever hear from her. And I'm really disappointed, because I was really looking forward to getting to know her.
Why do things have to be so difficult? And why does this all have to happen while I'm watching High Fidelity, so as to make me feel more disappointed?
Posted by Keith @ 02:00 PM ·
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